Selfishness

Am I selfish? Is everyone selfish? Well it is a natural human emotion to show from time to time due to our innate adaptations of survival. However, I think that in this life we tend to look at situations through rose colored glasses. And that rose colored tint is often the selfishness that clouds our thoughts. I think the moments that we tend to be most selfish...or should I just speak for myself when I say that the times I am most selfish?...is when it comes to relationships. I am so happy with my life and so happy with the fact that I have the coolest sister in the whole world, that I forget to be grateful for all the other blessings I have like all the awesome friends I surround myself with. As we become more and more comfortable with our lives, we are often less likely to reach out to others who are going through trying times. It is human nature. We want to enjoy our good times and not dwell on the times that we were once in. However, I think that this is the test of a truly unselfish person. Someone who can look outside the box...get outside of her/his comfort zone...and do the right thing.

To overcome selfishness, we must be willing to step out of your comfort level and put yourself in the shoes of another person. Think for a moment about the last time you purposely made yourself feel uncomfortable. This might be hard to remember because during this technological age, we tend to keep pretty well inside of our comfort level. What I am guilty of is not allowing myself to see through the eyes of another. If someone is trying their hardest to make me happy, sometimes I am too stuck in my ways to 1) let myself take the flattery and 2) give them a break. I need to forget about my own short-comings and realize that this other person is being completely selfless by putting their pride on the line. I need to realize that they deserve the benefit of the doubt for doing something that I only just think about doing. I need to be more of a bona fide unselfish person. That's what it comes down to.